Immigrant Observations in London

He was anxious. Worried and stressed. Didn't want to show his real self. Couldn't even if he wanted to anyway.
In his world weakness is unforgettable.
No mercy for unlucky souls who show emotions. Because emotions are for  weak and weakness is something you stay away from.
  
It is not a choice. It is a must. First rule of survival. Your game face. Straight, blank, practiced but natural.

The problem was he didn't fit any part of this segregated society. He knew that.

To start with he was an outsider, an immigrant, foreigner, an alien he would have been called if he was in USA.

How race, colour, age, sex did not matter. Once you have the accent in London you are the one. The one who arrived late.

Any accent would do. North London, south London, Essex, Brummie, Scottish, Irish, Indian, Patois but not immigrant one.

You get stamped straight away. Everybody knows that you are new here.
They treat newbies different in London. No matter where are you from or who you engage with, you get looked down.

Anybody who was born in the UK will judge you right there and then. Mostly you start the interaction with minus points.

You get struggle in the beginning but get used to it in time and accept it sometime very soon.
Once the peace made with unavoidable faith you start playing the game.

Learning the rules. Rules that emposed in to you by unwritten society rules. Everybody knows but nobody speaks of.

Meeting the family of THE girlfriend for the first time

Everybody agrees that you only have one chance for a good first impression. Hence the name. FIRST.!

Meeting the family of my girlfriend for the first time. Time to be smart, prepared, focused. Plan ahead. Once again; Be smart. Use the lessons from previous experiences. Follow the rules.

So here I go for that opportunity.
Already lover her, she does love me too but (unfortunately) you have to make sure everybody likes you.
Especially in the beginning. Until they know you and your intentions. Because people judge way too quick these days and if it is not positive it fucks everything up.

So it is time to play the game.

Rule Number One: Do not be an asshole. Be nice. Be patient. Scale people up. Are they sarcastic? Jokers? Serious? Do not rush but be nice.

Rule Number Two: Be Cautious. Keep an eye on your girlfriend when engaging with certain adults. Is she relax? Stressed? Jumpy? So you can manage your communication with that person better.

Rule Number Three: Listen more, talk less. Best way to figure out about the person you have just met. What subject they are passionate about? How much knowledge they have? What kinda word they are using? Are they positive? Negative? Aggressive? Happy? So you can pick little tips and READ MORE..

Unwanted fight

He knows what he wants

People don't

Hard to explain

but

He tries, barely..


Gives up sometimes

Pick himself up

When he gets weak

Knowing the borders

of

His limits won't help

If they refuse

to see


Unwanted fight

not willing to win

or lose

with humans

always believe they have

right to choose


Screaming to light

Whispering in dark

Scared of them

being black or white

Giving up the once again

Knowing to start

All over again..

Good Old London Bendy Buses

A long time ago they decide to introduce so-called Bendy Buses to London. What a big mistake that was.

First of all, they were not suitable for London's narrow roads but most importantly nobody was paying a fare.
Hop in Hop out.

When the authorities realise the non-paying issue, they recruited 150 people to catch people like us. They give them a fancy name. Revenue Protection Officers.

RPO's mean business.
They tried every trick in the book.
Tried to surprise people, catch them red-handed.
They hide behind bus stops, jump on a bus just before the doors close.

The trick was to keep an eye on the next stop.
When you see the Revenue Protection Officers you jump off the bus before they get in. Once they were in you pray that bus gets to next stop before they got to you.

Sometimes people used to get caught before they got to you. That was a mixed feeling though. You are happy being safe but feel for the fellow fee dodger.

Let's say you managed to get away for some time but your luck turned and got caught.

The first thought is "Even if I get fined, I am still in profit." Total unpaid fees £118, fine £60. right?

Not really.!

You should never give up.

So you give them some made up name, address, get your ticket, listen their -be a good citizen, pay your dues- advice and move on.

The secret in this tactic was to look embarrassed, feel bad and acted like you learn your lesson. If you behave cooky etc they insisted on seeing your ID, asking ridiculous questions and sometimes get the police involved.

You made them feel like winners. They got you. Wow. Great job mate. So you can safely move away and let them chase Mr Gregor Samsa.

This one time I and my mate decided to jump on a bus. He had a pass however I told him that I had no bus pass.
He dismissed my point and said " don't be a pussy"

Guess what happened next. I got caught.

So I am in the middle of the bus with my mate getting questioned, all pissed off decided to teach a lesson to my friend and gave his name and address to the officer.

Obviously, he didn't say anything but I could see him getting red and angry. I was feeling good myself at the time.
When he finished with me, the officer turned to my friend and asked for the pass. My smartass mate said that he didn't have a pass and gave my name/address for the fine. Asshole..!

Then one day Boris Johnson got rid off all bendy buses and brought fancy but troubled new routemasters.


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London Poem

They all come to London

Big dreams,

Soon abandon

Center of the world

One language turns hundred

Getting hurled

Memories Plundered

City is busy

Ignores you

You feel dizzy

Have no Clue

Not easy to get here

Harder to leave

When you realise

It's too late

There is nothing to achieve

Love and hate

You are in between

Knowing its too late

To get clean

London Knows you are here

Sad and tired

Only sees but cant here

You think you are fired

No more inspired

Done, Leaving no more,

The city is the pimp

and

You are just a whore..

How to share your feelings 3

When you decide to share your feelings there is one important rule. Do not justify.

Explain but not justify.

Remember they are your feelings. You can give a reason of course but you don’t need a confirmation or agreement.

All you need is to be listened and being understood when you share your feelings.

People in the conversation do not need to READ MORE CLICK HERE

How to share your feelings 2

Sharing your feelings must free you not make you feel under pressure.

You have to be confident, relax and powerful when you are opening up with your most personal feelings.

If you are not ease then either you are not ready or the person you choose is not right.

As long as the conditions mentioned above right you will be the winner. Come out more powerful and emotionally connected. This will lead to happiness and being positive.

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